Dating Women

Let me explain, have you ever bumped into a woman in the grocery store, the gym, the mall or at work had a small conversation and thought “I like her”? have you ever had the impulse to ask for her number?

My guess even if you did, you didn’t. Unless you are a very social and brave extrovert. Many of us as women get embarrassed to show interest in building friendships. Maybe it is our underlining wounds, our past experiences of rejection or that awkwardness of feeling like a creeper asking for a random female’s information.

Why is that? As women we long for acceptance and relationship yet we are scared to help one another see our greatest qualities.

The truth is that the reason we were drawn to that person to begin with is because they had something you admired, a good sense of humor, outlook on life, or maybe it was her impeccable sense of style. Whatever it was it’s a compliment, right? who doesn’t like to know they are interesting. I mean think about it we post images of our lives on social media for that little heart to be clicked and long for comments validating us, yet spare genuine and organic compliments to each other in real life, aren’t we all looking for someone to notice us?

Don’t get me wrong I am with you, it’s terrifying but what is equally scary to me is the thought of standing alone. Alone in those major moments in my life. Shouldn’t your girls be there if you get married, have a baby, get promoted? Who stands with you?

Yes, our significant other (if we have one) are amazing, their support is essential but I don’t think anyone will question there is nothing like your girls, women who can build you up and support you encourage you and fight alongside of you. Because we know what it is like, at the end of the day we fight the same things. I mean do guys bleed once a month or push out what could be the size of a small watermelon out of their Coochie (vigina....coochie means vigina haha) 

No. They don't. So you see my point. Only we can understand the intricate and beautiful and sometimes gross and painful parts of our lives!

I mean Girlfriends and Cocktails are like peanut butter and Jelly!  Photo via Google 

Now this isn’t to say I do not have women in my life, I do. Great ones like a best friend for a little less than a decade and a mother who is very much like a girlfriend and others who have come and stayed, others who have gone but still added to my life. All I am saying is we must be more open to each other.

I know from experience so many of us have a need, what if the women at the store, work, mall, or grocery store had a solution. Think of it as a game of averages or networking, think of all the great advice or memories we missed because of self-doubt and insincerities.  

Now I know what you’re thinking, “Women Suck” … (maybe that’s just me haha) I have been there too. I have dealt with back stabbing females, women who had no regard for my relationships, women who have just walked out, women how have used me…

BUT…

That is not all of us my guess is that you think you’re a pretty good friend. I am an amazing friend. So look at that there are two of us, now my guess is we are not the only two.

It's more than friendship it is feeding each other, helping each other heal by allowing us to know we have something to offer someone else and if we invested in each other think of how much stronger we could be. Think of what we would never settle for if we had women encouraging us we were worthy more consistently?

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I want to continue to grow and help others do the same so I am now open to dating haha. I am looking for my Tribe, I follow an amazing woman on intsagram ( you should check her out...no really check her out  @_kel_marie_she is a real person and fitness goals for me!) She is always rooting for her "tribe" a group of women who support and encourage each other, how awesome is that?!

This is not to say every woman you meet is going to be built for friendship with you, but just to encourage you to look beyond yourself and be open to others. Just like traditional dating you should vibe with someone, enjoy their company and see with time what grows and if it doesn’t work it doesn’t work.

I truly believe we are as women born healers and hope for a time when we learn to help heal each other.

Con todo amor,

Jena